Many couples struggle with communication problems, which can range from faulty communication about wants and needs, to a complete lack of any meaningful back and forth dialogue. Women typically have an easier time with feeling based communication, while men tend to struggle, not for lack of intent, but tools.
As one can imagine, not having a method to understand one another can frequently lead to misunderstandings, frustration, anger, disconnect and feelings of being taken for granted or minimized.
While every couple is different, the sequences that play out in most conflicts are actually quite similar, and by addressing the misunderstandings, couples learn more useful and effective communication, as well as the necessary skills to evolve. It is through gaining and utilizing better tools that most couples improve.
My approach focuses on growth in the present and future. While the past may be playing a significant role in current conflicts, it does not have to define the present. While we can learn from the past in order to strengthen the relationship, make efforts to grow, and avoid future mistakes, the past should not be used as a weapon. Premarital counseling presents an opportunity for couples to develop the tools necessary for success early on in their life together. It gives a couple the skills they will inevitably need to work together and remain connected. It creates the space to talk about difficult subject matter, that will be important down the road. By establishing common ground early on, it is easier to identify and resolve potential issues, laying down a better, more resilient foundation for the relationship.
Couples typically address:
Extended family/Cultural issues